Single and not waiting - Converge
I really like this article. I feel as though so often, singleness is looked down upon. To be completely honest, with where I’m at in life right now, I love it and I don’t think I could handle a serious relationship. The truth is, being single is so crucial to learning about yourself and loving yourself first, before learning to love someone else. And I feel that too often, I’ve been chasing after the man of my dreams, instead of God himself. I want to keep digging deeper into him and experience his love for me to the fullest. I’m not saying that you need to be completely secure in your relationship with Christ first, and then He’ll “bless” you with a significant other. Or that you need to be completely secure with yourself either. Because I don’t think that. I think sometimes, meeting that special someone can strengthen your relationship with Christ and that’s really important too. And sometimes that special someone helps you to learn yourself and recognize how special you are. For me personally, with my circumstances and where I’m at in life, I want to use this time of single hood to grow deeper in my walk with God, to learn about myself, to fall in love with myself, to go on adventures, to have fun, to work hard in school, and to strengthen relationships with my family and friends. Please don’t get me wrong, because I know some people could take this the wrong way. I’m saying all of this from a personal standpoint. I really believe marriage is one of the most beautiful things God created - I mean think about it, two people becoming one … that’s truly beautiful! And I’m so excited to fall in love, and I look forward to that day when I become a Mrs., but it’s like this writer said, “I’ve wasted my time, my energy, and my emotions on this concept that singleness is just a waiting room for a relationship. I’m tired of this view that my life begins when I wake up next to my husband, because I’m pretty sure my life began 23 years ago when my mom gave birth. And this mentality has robbed my joy”. Maybe I’m not a victim to that extent because I haven’t felt robbed of joy as she has with being single, but I have gotten down that I’m still not in a relationship (which is ridiculous because I am so young). I just want to encourage those of you who are in this time of life “waiting” for someone to come along and sweep you off your feet. Stop waiting. What are you waiting for? Use this time and live this beautiful life you’ve been given to the fullest. Singleness is only bad if you let it be.
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